Pros and Cons of being too polite

short pros and cons

Hello there,

todays short blog will be about the good and bad things of being too nice to people.

Lets cut it short.

Pros: If the person you are talking to understands that youre just being polite/nice and thus is polite as well and appreciates it.

  • others will be nice as well (depends on the person)
  • you might feel good about being nice to others
  • it might gives you a good feeling as a reward
  • you might be seen as a nice person from customers to seek help
  • being nice can help you grow your social skills with friends and family
  • being nice could be rewarded with respect from others as well
  • it might boost your confidence because your social skills get better and communication does too

Now for the cons:

  • you won’t be able to have an authentic relationship.
  • you’ll might never be as happy as you could be but this different for every person
  • you might give the OK for others to take advantage of you
  • you might subordinate yourself by overapologizing to others
  • you might be not taken seriously by some people or the most
  • you might burn out and or be resentful and think too much
  • you might have problems to get into a serious relationship

In the end its okay to be nice but dont overdo it, specially if you know how many people would react and take advantage of.

Heres a link to our book „Beliefs spiritually considered“ to help out. https://www.amazon.de/Beliefs-spiritually-considered-Katja-Kubiak/dp/B08BDVN6K5

Energetisches Chaos – Momentane Welt

Hallo Zusammen, jeder weiß wohl wenn ich das Wort „Krieg“ erwähne, worum es hier geht. Jedoch geht es nicht um den physischen Teil, sondern den spirituellen Aspekt. Ich erwähne vorab, dass diese Geschehnisse ebenso auch überall anders stattfinden, in welcher ein Krieg am laufen ist oder großes Leid. Nehmen wir das Kampffeld unter energetische Beobachtung, … Weiterlesen „Energetisches Chaos – Momentane Welt“

Traumwelten: „Exorzieren“ eines Hauses

Hallo Zusammen, Ich durfte wieder letzte Nacht einen Wiederholungstraum besuchen. Dabei fanden erst komplett zufällige Szenen statt, welche aber mit zu der Traumsequenz gehörten. Eines der Szenen war, dass mir zu warm wurde und ich in einer Art Abflussschleuse am Straßenrand badete. Von dieser Ansammlung von braunem Wasser trank auch noch ab und an eine … Weiterlesen „Traumwelten: „Exorzieren“ eines Hauses“

Gefangen im Traum – Sinn der Wiederholungsträume

Hallo Zusammen, Ich weiss wir hatten dieses Thema schon in einem früheren Blog, jedoch hat mir der gestrige Traum mehr Klarheit über gewisse Dinge gebracht. Ich erzähle euch erstmal vom Traum. Ich bin in einem älteren Gebäude in Senftenberg, meinem damaligen Wohnort in Deutschland aufgewacht. Ich stand dort bewusst in der Szene und wusste was … Weiterlesen „Gefangen im Traum – Sinn der Wiederholungsträume“

Common relationship reasons for break ups

„Common causes for breakups include personality differences, lack of time spent together, infidelity, lack of positive interactions between the couple, low sexual satisfaction, and low overall relationship satisfaction. Ending a relationship is one of the most difficult things we have to do.“

Now this is what google says shortly and its mostly true. So lets make the obvious facts even clearer.

The most reason why a relationship fails for men is either there is no good sex or sex at all. Or there is huge gap in communication between each other. Men tend to do their part of the story when they get something in regard as well. But such relationships wont last long since there is no love involved.

Mostly teenagers have the thing of breaking up constantly and comming back together and playing around like that. But many adults got the same problem. Due to lack or miss communication, we tend to overthink or built up stupid thoughts in our minds which are mostly never true. So it happens that an entire bad conversation can happen in your head which only makes your mood bad.

If both parties speak up for themselves and talk with each other on what they want and what they wish from the other, it would become either much easier together. Or it would show you that its really time for a break up! If one does not want to sit and talk about it all, she or he is not the one you have been waiting for my friends. And it doesnt matter when he or she dont feel about talking right now. Its your relationship on the line and it should be solved or dismissed. This of course only happens if both love each other for real and not for anything else in the material world.

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Heute mal ein geteilter Blog von Werners Traumlounge. Viel Spaß.

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what do house cats need?

what do you need, iv you get some cats?

A quick blog about what house-apartment cats need.

First of all, an apartment cat alone, almost always feels lonely and should get either free passage or a comrade with 4 paws if possible.

In other words, individual keeping is neither species-appropriate nor animal-friendly, unless the cat is already 12 years old and knows it no other way, since it could be that a new comrade is completely ignored or hostile.

I prefer in the case that to get  two little  cats,  who know each other and play with each other and the old cats at best reach to the cinema, i.e. leave them as much as possible alone.

This way, she does not feel lonely, but also not severely overworked and annoyed and also threatens to develop less behavioral disorders due to loneliness.

What basic equipment do I need for „two“ cats?

First of all, I should know that windows never! may be tipped when my cats are alone. And also that with tilted windows no curtains tempt you to climb up.

Even in my presence, it can happen that I am not in the room, the cat climbs up the curtain and slips into the tilted window.

— Tilt window syndrome is called when a cat is stuck in the slant.

Wide open windows tempt you to go out and fall down or even  jump down..

Balconies or terraces offer the same danger potential and must be well secured.

Thin plastic nets are really not  enough. I know of a case where a cat has even fallen twice from the tenth floor. And  the second time, then didn’t go well at all.

When I have secured all the sources of danger that lead outside, I have to remember that it often happens that cats want to escape through the front door, especially when they are uncastrated and the call of freedom resounds…

I have already had significantly more than one cat between legs and front door .. They  remember  that for a while, but once the headaches are forgotten, they try it again.

That is why castration is important as early as possible.

I need for each cat its own cat klo PLUS another as an alternative. At Katzenklos  you can also have quiet the two variants stand, once with hood, once without.

Cat cloisters should always be in the quietest corners, where there is no through traffic. We are also closing  the door.

If cats are disturbed on the toilet, also by other cats, there is a risk of uncleanliness.

I have already seen a second cat sitting ON the toilet and knocking the one who was about to do their business on their head, through the opening.

The cat inside, was then no longer willing to use this toilet. Understandably, but if there is no alternative, where does the cat go? No matter where you 😉 😉

Having worked as an animal welfare worker for a long time, I have seen the most repulsive examples in private households. Unfortunately, many people believe a cat clone with 3 cm litter in it is enough.

And make it fresh once a week. You see something like this all the time and when children live in such households, they also feel directly sorry….

Every cat wants its own food bowls. One for wet food and one for any given dry food.

I blog about it another time. These bowls should also be made fresh every day. Ahem, to be washed off, I mean.

In principle, if you have fed the cats fresh and they do not devour everything immediately, you should leave the bowl standing, because cats are appetizers and not like dogs, eat everything at once.

In summer you should make sure that no flies come and lay their eggs  on them!

Water bowls, is generally enough a large one for two cats. The water should be changed daily and the shell washed off.

Cat toys in the form of fumble boards  can be made by  yourself.  Google offers endless variants for this. Or you can collect empty toilet paper rolls and tinker yourself.

A large scratching tree, preferably made of real wood, possibly even wrapped with sisal, although I do not consider this necessary, should be absolutely present!

If the sofa and wallpaper are preferred, make it essential to offer scratch boards.

My cats love real wood slices, fresh from the forest.

On the other hand, every sofa cocks off 😉  Sorry, for the choice of words. I just can’t think of the term.

What you need to keep in mind:

Each cat needs its own transport box!

Please stop putting several cats in a box.

This may still work with kittens, for adult cats this is an ordeal!

Cats do NOT give each other mutual spiritual support when they are stuck in this box and they already suspect that the way does not provide anything good.

Transport boxes do not have to be open above, this is just a nice gadget, but also increased outbreak potential!

My vets prefer to open the box simply in the middle and treat unwilling cats in the box.

Now you also know why every cat still needs its own box. 

What else do you need?

start-up capital, for the most important veterinary examinations.

Especially people who collect and rescue animals from multi-billion households  or from the street know what I am talking about…

Personally, I have never taken out pet insurance, if your veterinarian should offer instalment payment, this is not necessary.

Just ask him. Most offer it. So that in the case of negative surprises that definitely come, you don’t have to turn to an insurance company that may not end up paying anything.

With us you have to reckon with the – really important – castrations of a cat with about 100 and per cat with 150 euros.

Cats can become pregnant at five months, or unfortunately even EHER. BEFORE they were ever visibly rolling!

Please keep this in mind when you bring siblings! Cat incest offspring, can be born severely handicapped and still live and it breaks  your heart when these innocent souls have to be euthanized.

Which, by the way,  can cost up to 100 euros per cat.

Killing such animals, by the way, is rightly strictly forbidden at home and is also punished! The Animal Welfare Act is in this case on the side of the animals.

So letting castration protects not only your cats, but also your wallet. And no, you can’t make money with kittens. Ebay is still full of unwanted kittens that are being slammed at slingshot prices.

Fur care products are also very important.

But please, do not use fur care products for dogs or horses and get a cat brush.

These metal brushes,  which you sometimes see in retail, do really anyway. You can test this  beforehand and then decide whether you brush your cats‘ fur with it.

Cats don’t want to bathe and shouldn’t. Unless there are medical reasons or a stray needs a flea bath…

However, this is rather rare and cats know this and will fight back. If you want to bathe your pet, you should seriously ask yourself WHY. This is not the animal for the good!

Cat beds are a nice gadget, but cats prefer to sleep where you sleep.

If you don’T want to, please DON’t let her into the bedroom!

Not even during the day.

Cats do NOT understand why they are allowed during the day and not at night! And then at night they do terror at the door, including scratching and screaming and screaming.

Once accustomed, it becomes difficult to get used to it again.

The same applies to all other areas, education is important and possible from THE BEGINNING!

Combing from the beginning, otherwise it will be more of a „I run after the cat with the brush through the house – game!“

Bela, my late cat, has made fun of playing with me „hide and catch“ for over 14 years. She has regularly asked me to do so.

So it can also be fun. However, Bela was also not a cat who has lost tons of fur.

Information beforehand  how the breed of your cat is on it when changing fur, I came already in apartments with Siamese cats that were covered by a veil of cat fur. Sitting down impossible.

As an owner you can clean  as you like, the cat shakes once and the fur flies. A cat that regularly allows  das it to be brushed is already less hairy.


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